Ted retired from TJB around 1990, I remember him telling me it just wasn't fun anymore. He did not like the travel and felt it was time to retire.
Ted had always been very healthy, never been in the hospital or had any other issues. He did get shingles on his face sometime between 1990 and 1995--I remember it was very painful. They had a pool at their house for many years, Ted would always go out and clean it, but we don't remember him ever getting in the pool. In fact, I don't remember EVERY seeing my Dad in a pair of shorts.
He also got Paget's disease during this time, which affected his leg and bowed it and it was painful ever after.
Rita passed away suddenly on July 3, 1995, when Ted was still on crutches. Luann and Lynne remember getting meals on wheels for him since we had little kids and did not cook any of the foods that Dad liked. He didn't think the meals were too good! He eventually got off his crutches and developed a routine of going out to eat every day for lunch and sometimes dinners.
He would take the family out once a week for family dinner. Often times it was Michael's restaurant in Rocky River. Anyone that was in town would attend. Eventually, it switched to a weekly family lunch, but he still went out to lunch and often dinner almost every day, he just didn't think it was worth cooking for himself. . He certainly could have learned--he learned to do his wash, be proficient at the computer, he just didn't want to.
Christmas, 2017 Dad called and said he had extreme pain in his leg and couldn't manage to get up his stairs. We took him to the emergency We moved a bed downstairs for him, but after a month of sponge baths, he understood that he couldn't stay in his current home. The end of January, he moved to his new home at the Gardens at Westlake. He had an apartment with a patio where he fed peanuts to the birds every day, 3 meals a day, (although we took him out for lunch almost every day), and a private dining room where we had occasional family dinners when we didn't go out. He didn't require any services other than putting on those annoying TED socks, and he had a wonderful reclining chair that he sat in 16 hours a day...
2020--Covid struck, and we were all quarantined. Like everyone else, his visits outside were extremely curtailed after March 31, 2020, except for occasional visits to the doctor and sometimes to sit outside with us on nice days. His last excursion was to Luann's house in October to celebrate her birthday (and his) on a beautiful day, when we sat outside. Thank you Lynne for the wonderful suggestion to get him out that day!
He was content to stay in the gardens, didn't want to violate their rules, and one of the good benefits of Covid was that he was able to eat his meals in his room. Because he was so hard of hearing, he didn't enjoy eating in the main dining room because he couldn't hear the conversation, and he didn't want people to think he was rude. He had hearing aids, but he often still had trouble picking up many sounds. Up until the end, he was able to log into his computer and manage a video call with Luann and Lynne.
On Dec 17, 2020, he tested positive for Covid 19, but appeared asymtomatic. On Dec 23 he fell and was quite confused. He was taken to the hospital but returned home because they found nothing wrong. On Dec 25, he again fell, and was very confused. He again went to St. John's hospital, where they kept him for serveral days because of a case of pneumonia, upon which he was transferred to Westlake Village for skilled nursing for Physical Therapy. While he seemed to recover from the Covid 19 virus, at some point he contracted C-diff, a severe infection that made him miserable and was hard on his body, as was the antibiotic.
Luann and Lynne were given compassionate care visits, and we were allowed to go in and visit him every day, which was wonderful--more than we have seen him in the prior 8 months. Although very sleepy, when awake he was still of very sound mind and still making jokes until the end. He called us both the evening of Jan 17 and talked, then also called Luann the morning of Jan 18. We discussed that he would go back to the Gardens the next day. They got him up for Physical therapy that morning, and his heart gave out. Fast and hopefully painless, just the way he wanted.