My Champion Big Bro Since Childhood
My heart hurts!!!What kind of pain is this?. This is unbelievable and so unbearable!!!Death why????. My big bro was so young and had his whole life ahead of him!!!what kind of trouble is this!!. The memories are so many omg!!I cant believe I have to refer to you in past tense!!!I really hope this really brings me some closure because I'm shaking!!.
Mama Ndumu my dad's elder sister had five sons so although we were her nieces she treated us as daughters. I remember we couldn't wait to spend holidays with her and our cousins at up station. We knew we were going to have a great time especially with Akenji!!. Uncle Ake as we called him treated us as little princesses, every morning he will wake up and make us breakfast, our favorite moments was when he took us out for play dates, shopping and ice cream. We were so grateful to him for that. We enjoyed playing with him a lot at home also, we will jump on our aunty's (Mama Ndumu) bed with him, play with balloons, play pillow fights and hide and seek all day. He was a very awesome big brother. I also remember the wonderful moments we had with uncle Ake when he visited us in Cameroon as a bush faller. OMG our friends liked him so much because of his generosity and kindness. He will always take us out to nice places with our friends. He knew how to spend his dollars on his little sisters. I remember very well the pink and green pullovers he gave to us when he visited Cameroon. We were known for always wearing those particular pullovers on very special occasions. We cherished those pullovers, you could not tell us anything when we had them on. Fast forward to when we moved to the US. Mama Ndumu housed us for a whole year and we will forever be grateful for that. During this time uncle Ake was very nice and understanding enough to share his room with our little bro Bongnwi mean while uncle Tama(Ake's big bro gave up his room completely for my twin sis and I. Amazing big brothers!!.During this time uncle Ake sacrificed majority of his time to give us a tour of MD, DC, NY etc. I remember our first trip to New York with uncle Ake, Stage, Nanga and Bongnwi omg it was a very interesting trip!!uncle Ake tried his very best to make sure we were happy and comfortable. I also remember Cynthia Nguni's baby shower, uncle Ake decided to be our driver after the party and fell asleep while driving!!!Our sister Nerrisa yelled "big bro I beg wake up!!you want make we die?". He woke up and switched places with her then with a loud laughter he said "hahahah wouna di fear die!!wouna no worry, God go take we for house safely yah". I can go on and on!!!weyyy uncle Ake!!!. At some point life became very busy with school, work, kids and other many challenges and we were not keeping in touch as we used to. This is the part that really hurts me because I really wished I made an effort to communicate and keep in touch more often, I wish I found time to sit down with you for some meaningful conversations like we used to because you were extremely smart and intelligent. In fact any question we asked you, you knew the answer immediately. I remember the last time I saw you this year, you were very happy to see me, you stated "look at you Nchang!! you are a whole mother of two boys now,". You promised to visit the kids and I more often. I also remember you saying "we survived covid-19 isn't God good"?. I wish I had a hint that it will be the last time I will ever see you again. My big brother I miss your smiles and laughter!!your laughter in particular was very unique and contagious. This one is a very hard pill to swallow. You took great care of your mother, I feel so sorry for her, I pray God gives her strength to bear this pain. I pray also that your little sisters can fill in the gap for you so that she feels loved and cared for. You have taught me some huge lessons!!!!. I will never take life for granted again, I will stop procrastinating and I will do better with my communication to family. Wey uncle Ake, go well and prepare room for us in Heaven. Greet Big bro Abongwa, big bro Nfor, Aunty Lydia, aunty Sirri, aunty Doris, uncle Ngwamulah and our grand fathers for us. Rest In perfect Peace until we meet again. I will forever LOVE and MISS U.