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Remembering My Brother - Love Ian

January 9, 2018

Good afternoon and thank you for coming to here today to celebrate the life of Malcolm Graham Anderson. I am up here today to speak as his brother and friend.

Mal had an interesting beginning to life. He was born in Sheffield England. Our father was a corporal in the RCAF and posted in England during World War II. The war had ended, so shortly after Mal was born our father was shipped home. Mal, our sister Erica and our mom were left to fend for themselves and prepare for the journey to Canada. Mal’s entry to Canada is one for the history books. He travelled from London on Letitia, a cruise ship that had been converted to a troop carrier, and arrived at the now famous Pier 21 in Halifax in late August 1946. Our mom, Malcolm and Erica then found themselves on a train to Montreal and then on to Winnipeg where Mal would make his mark.

One of the things I loved about my brother is he had attitude. Our folks didn’t always appreciate his attitude but I did.

I was his little brother and trusted him implicitly. One day when I was 4 years old Mal asked me if I’d like to fly like Superman and witches. I was enthusiastic and implored him to teach me this secret. Mal fashioned me a superman cape and gave me a broom to put between my legs. He assured me that this would give me the power to fly. Even at 4 years of age I was dubious, but as you all probably know Mal can be quite convincing. So there I was at the top of the basement stairs with a cape on my shoulders and a broom between my legs, and Mal at the bottom telling me just jump and you will fly. I flew right to the bottom of the stairs. I’ve trusted him ever since after all how can you not trust someone who taught you how to fly!!

Mal demonstrated an entrepreneurial spirit by the age of 12, and I’m not talking lemonade stands. It was Easter time and we lived near Portage Ave where Mal often walked by a florist shop. The shop had a promotion selling Easter Chicks. This sounds like a strange sales promotion but it intrigued Malcolm. He came home with a fluffy little chick telling our mother that he would raise this chick and it would provide the family with a supply of eggs and eventually a fine chicken dinner. Well my mother the British war bride, looked at her determined 12 year old son and thought what the heck. She and Malcolm set up an area in the back porch and together they started to raise this chicken. Two things went wrong with Mal’s great plan. 1. The chick turned into a noisy rooster (no eggs) and 2. Mal named the rooster and it became part of the family. You don’t eat family. So allegedly our mom, took the rooster and convince a farmer to give it a home. At least that’s what she told us.

When I was fourteen I remember Mal introducing me to a friend of his, Patricia Manson. I remember this moment at our house on Montrose because Mal was so excited for me to meet this friend. He asked me what I thought of her and kept talking about her all the time. As a matter of fact he kept talking about her for the next 51 years. His love and devotion to Pat was an inspiration for me.

Mal and I visited a lot during his last months. Mal knew he didn’t have long to live and tasked me with saying a few things today. He wanted everyone to know he was very proud of his work life accomplishments, which are too lengthy to cover here today in any detail. He was Deputy Minister of Finance, Energy and Mines, and Crown Investments with the province of Manitoba. He became CEO of Credit Union Central in 1986 and I believe it was Mal’s innovation and leadership that has resulted in the incredible growth of credit unions in Manitoba. He told me shortly after joining Credit Union Central that the job would be easy. He said he only had to obtain access to issue a major credit card, and to convince all the Credit Unions to offer ATM banking internationally as opposed to just locally. I doubt the job was easy but Mal got it done.

Mal’s primary talent was in finance but it turns out the job he loved the most was being head of the University Medical Group. He said this work had greater meaning than any of his previous positions because he got to help doctors help people.

But the most important message Malcolm wanted me to give today is that nothing is more important than family. He could never have accomplished all that he did without the love and support of his family, Pat his wife, his children Dayna and Darryl, his grandchildren Isabelle, Nolan and Nathan and of great importance, Kevin. Of course there are nieces, nephews, in-laws, and Mal’s Mom, Dad, brother and sister who he loved dearly. But the people I named were his core, his reason for being. So he wanted me to finish by saying this. He loved his family so much that in the end nothing else mattered.

Slaw Rebchuk Bridge

September 9, 2017

There's a plaque with Mal's name on it at the base of the Slaw Rebchuk bridge. He was the Commissioner of Finance for the City of Winnipeg at the time the bridge was constructed (1984).

Remembering My Grandpa -- Love Kevin

July 23, 2017

Good afternoon everyone, I'm Kevin Anderson, one of Mal's many grandkids.  On behalf of the family we thank everyone for being here, helping us pay respect to a wonderful person, someone who was always happy, cheery, helpful and occasionally grumpy.

In many families, grandparents are a somewhat abstract concept;  there are pictures of them around the house, you might get a birthday card in the mail or see them on holidays, but for me, my grandparents were an everyday part of my life. I was fortunate enough to spend lots of time with my Grandpa.

I got to share many big milestones of my life with my Grandpa.  From birthdays to all my sporting events, going on countless holidays and even my High School Graduation, (he didn't see that coming).

Grandpa loved going on holidays with the family.  From trips to Fargo and Grand Forks to riding the "Maid of the Mist boat" in Niagara Falls,  but by far the most memorable moments were in Chicago.  There's a few that stick out that I'm sure he would have wanted me to share today.

I was about 12 years old and me and my grandparents were in O'Hare airport in Chicago and we had decided to grab a bite to eat at the Chili's.  After not being served for 10 or 15 minutes, Grandpa asked one of the dish boys if we could get some service.  He told us that we just need to call for it.  So, on an extremely busy day in O'Hare airport, Grandpa stands up, starts waving his hands, and screams at the top of his voice, "CALLING FOR SERVICE".  I think everyone in the airport heard him calling, but he got us our service.

Another memory I won't forget from Chicago was when Grandpa and my Uncle Darryl were both egging me on to eat, what turned out to be the hottest I've ever eaten in my life.  Me, thinking I was invincible, couldn't let my old Grandpa and grey haired Uncle get the best of me, so, of course I ate it, while Grandma was yelling for me not to eat it. Turned out to be a bad mistake for me.  Grandpa's face was priceless.

My Grandpa has had a deep impact on my life, and I'm sure in the years to come I'll notice new areas he's influenced.  He may not have known it, but he taught me the importance of hard work and determination.  I wouldn't be where I am today, or who I am, without my Grandpa.  I know he couldn't be anymore proud of me and what I've gone on to accomplish, thanks to him.

I hope someday to be half the man my Grandpa was.  People like my Grandpa are one in a million.  Anyone who knew him, knew of his generosity, work ethic, caringness and ability to handle any situation.

So let us celebrate my Grandpa 's life and continue his legacy.

Thank you for everything Grandpa. I love you and will miss you.

Love,
Kevin

Eulogy For My Dad - Love Darryl

July 14, 2017

Thank you all for coming today to celebrate Dad’s life. And thanks to everyone who couldn’t make it today but have shared their condolences and memories with us. It’s wonderful to see and hear how many people his life touched.

Much like his life, Dad wanted this celebration to be lively, upbeat, and full of optimism. He was always driving forward in life, and would have wanted us to do the same.


Growing up, Dad taught us how to work hard. That we get only what we earn. And how to be be accountable. He wanted the best for us, but also wanted to teach us that success is earned, not given.

Take his yard as an example. He was so proud of it. When a dandelion would pop up, he’d run out right away with weed killer. When the bugs started getting bad, he bought what I think had to be the world’s largest bug zapper. It cleared most of the neighborhood, and sounded like a giant popcorn popper most of the night. And when gophers showed up… it was the start of an epic battle that we still talk about today. Let’s just say it was a good thing he didn’t have access to explosives or he probably would have gone full Caddyshack on us and blown up the whole lawn.


Dad also taught us the importance of family. Whether it was family vacations, concerts, sports, or just being a goof and throwing his socks at us after a long day, he left us with a lifetime of laughs and great memories.

When I moved to Toronto, Dad used to visit all the time when he was in town for business. And no matter how busy he was, he always made time to meet up with me. He once showed up at my apartment door in his suit and tie, carrying a bag of cleaning supplies from KMart. I guess he didn’t like my bachelor cleaning skills.

When Julie and I started our family, Dad was always there to help when needed and offer fatherly advice. He told me that raising kids is hard, but as long as you love them, teach them what you know, give them a solid education, and let them know they have a safety net, the rest is up to them. Great advice that I try to remember every day.

 

As most of us here know, Dad had a reputation for getting things done. He was persistent, driven, and could be as stubborn as the day is long. These were all (mostly) traits that served him well in life. He taught us these traits and they helped us succeed in life.

When he was undergoing radiation treatments a couple of winters back, I took him a few times. On one particularly cold morning he had to get a prescription filled at a drug store down the road. He was supposed to keep his face protected from the cold, so I offered to get the car and drive us there. But he just scoffed at me and said “bundle up, we’re walking”. And then as we start down the road he pauses, and says “don’t tell Mom”. That was Dad, nothing could keep him down. But he still wanted to make Mom happy.

And really, it’s hard to imagine Dad without Mom. He always told me how lucky he felt to have her, and how much he loved her and appreciated everything she did for him.



Like many fathers and sons, Dad and I had a shared love of sports. In particular, we shared a special attachment to the first version of the Jets. He had season tickets, so we got to go to all (ahem), ok, the few great moments the Jets had. Teemu’s 76th goal, Dave Ellot’s OT goal, and of course, all of their other playoff losses. And when they were about to leave the city, he worked so hard as the Chairman of the Spirit of Manitoba to try to keep them in town. In his last few weeks I joked with him that he should have a burial service and request the Jets as pallbearers, just so they could let him down one last time.

I’ll never be able to watch the Jets again without smiling and thinking of Dad.

 



Growing up, you always look for validation. Every kid wants their dad’s approval. Every child wants their dad to tell them that he is proud of them. And we all know what it feels like to get that attention, that acknowledgement. You may need it less as you get older and more secure with yourself. But it still feels good.

And he never failed to let me know he was proud of me. And how proud he is of Dayna as well – and the families we now have, Julie and Rob – and of all of his grandchildren – Nolan and Nathan, Kevin and Isabelle. He’s proud of our successes, but more importantly, who we have become as people.

 


I’d like to thank all the doctors who worked so hard to keep Dad going over the last couple of years. After his surgery we were able to create so many special memories that wouldn’t have otherwise been possible. Mom and Dad were able to take my boys to their first NHL hockey game out in Chicago… against the Jets, and the Jets won. Nathan got a puck from Mark Schieflle, and Nolan got one from the zamboni driver. We got to celebrate Christmases, Halloween, Birthdays, Mothers Days, Fathers Day… each extra special given how hard he had fought to get there.

And during that time we never hesitated to let each other know how much we loved and appreciated each other. It’s a great gift than being able to say these things to a loved one before they’re gone.


Dad, thank you for everything, you will be greatly missed, and I love you.


Love, Darryl